Originally, my husband and I decided that it would not be proper etiquette to have a shower, given that this will be the fifth addition to our family. However, a few family members and close friends have been asking us about items we will need for the new baby. Fortunately, my very generous friend, Nicole, has a baby boy that is about fifteen months old now and she has offered to loan some of his things to our baby. Today, she asked about giving us a shower. Because I believe that our friends and relatives are excited along with us, even if they wouldn't choose such a large family for themselves, I have decided to accept her offer.
According to babbee.com... "Traditionally, yes a baby shower is only held for first baby's but the modern view is that baby showers can be held for subsequent babies. It might be a good idea if the person who is intending to host the shower asks the potential guests how they feel about holding a second or third shower. If most people seem keen with the idea then why not have one. Gifts for the shower are best aimed at being the more useful everyday items that the baby may need and maybe not quite as expensive as given at a first baby shower. If the second or third baby is a different sex from the original one, or if there has been a considerable lapse in time between the births the mother may not still have the original clothing and equipment it may be particularly appropriate to hold a subsequent shower. But please do remember that the idea of holding a baby shower is of course not just about giving gifts but is also a social event and it is a good excuse for friends and family to get together and to celebrate the birth of a baby."
I found the above quote when I did a google search for baby shower etiquette. Also, I found some really neat sites that offered alternative ideas to the whole gift giving pressure that showers often impose. Click on the title of this post to view one of those sites.
If a fifth baby celebration sounds like something you would like to attend, please email us and I will forward your contact information to our gracious host.Thanks
Thursday, November 11, 2004
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I think it would be inappropriate to throw one for yourSELF, but if someone else wants to, by all means! I was given a surprise baby shower for my second child, my first girl... which was great because my first was 4 years old and I hadn't saved any baby stuff, plus he was a boy, so I never had the girly things.
I also think it depends on one's economic situation. For someone who NEEDS it more, the question shouldn't even be asked. It should just be done.
BTW... I would love to attend, if I lived nearby... but do know that I'm with you in spirit!
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ABSOLUTELY NOT! It's one of those unbreakable rules of etiquette. Also, don't wear white past Labor Day, don't eat food while still wearing your little white gloves,and ladies only ride side saddle!
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